Dating life 1980s Chat rusia
I just helped a friend out by filling out a questionnaire for her psych class, and it kicked my ass a little.These were questions about dating as a teen, and I realized while answering that I have absolutely no answers for what LGBT kids did in the 1980s for dating.
Since the earliest days of mass media and technology, people have been finding ways to broadcast their desires and find connections that might have otherwise eluded them.There were dances at Columbia University back then that I used to go to, and I loved those.I went a few times with friends from those youth groups I mentioned, and we had a blast. And no one in there was really an appropriate person to date.I remember keeping an eye open and hoping to find someone in the closet at my school whom I could fall in love with. I went to a couple youth groups for LGBT kids in New York City. I was the kid whose hair WASN’T blue, or pink, who DIDN’T have multiple piercings. Like, I was too weird to find love like the “normal, straight kids” at school, but not weird enough for those groups. I have always felt a tremendous amount of shame for how I behaved as a teenager. They were too old for me, and I know now that it was tremendously damaging to me to have had some of those formative experiences.I’ve talked a lot and written a lot about “acting out” as a teenager. And yet, it wasn’t until today, answering that questionnaire, that I realized something: What were my options? What was a gay kid who was lonely and intrigued and all that stuff supposed to do? Unless I wanted to date females, which I did do a little bit (with no success), what were my options?
For me, there was no one “appropriate” to date, really.